Divorce the person you married? why?

I got a little worked up the other day when I heard the 2
perfectly nice people were likely divorcing and breaking
their cute family up. "I can't make her happy" "She is
depressed and hard to be around negativity, not the person I
married" This first blog will just be my take on this. I
told him to stop that crap now! Don't bother about making
her happy, it'll just piss you both off! He wasn't on the
same page with me. My point is to be the very best "you"
that you can, and be happy. Look for happy, give people your
happy side, be nice. Just focus on being positive and
believe, all the time that the right thing is happening. You
are not going to be late, you are giving the nice person the
time they need to get out of your perfect parking spot. I
can't tell you how many times this worked for me. Shocking
the first year or two, but it just kept working out! Some
close friends started to do it, my wife, etc. It is part of
the positive belief system that the book and movie "The
Secret" is about. I didn't at that time, realize the real
power, because the residual 'happiness and good feelings'
from just wheeling up 5 spots from the front doors in the
financial district is so incredible, its hard to have a bad,
day or even week. My point about his wife, is that he'd be
happy (good) and being around a happy person is the easiest
thing for anyone. Again, the by-product is the energy and
joy are very powerful and that is often shared with anyone
in the area. I know that a part of her 'depression' would be
lifted. Some of it would likely be that she knows she is not
giving him the attention or love or respect and has probably
witnessed his energy fade after being around her. Now, that
guilt or dread or task doesn't need to concern her, she can
be miserable without thinking about him. I suggested that he
not 'do' anything for or about her. I want to toss out here
that what I hoped he'd come up with himself is, as I said
earlier, be the best YOU that you can, based on what little
you know about yourself...lol..I am going to stop here and
clarify something before I sign out. If you are 'being' the
best you, wouldn't the nice you, while around your family
and friends, be genuine and helpful and complementary, kind,
giving, sacrificing, etc? Certainly around those closest to
our heart? Just don't contain it to those few, share with
everyone you can. Drop all the image that you can and be
'real, truthful and speak with the heart, and use words that
you're heart would use when taking with your closest group.
Give a true complement, a real one. Feels really good to
give those ones and super to receive.
OK, that is all for
now, and I know that there will be a few that say that its
'like wearing rose colored glass, what you see isn't real'
My response is that I am very aware of the crap in our
society, problems at every level and every country. Why do I
need to breath the smog in order to know there is a problem
in the air? Or is it ok to know, be a conservative as I can
with the earths resourses? Tread as lightly as I can? I
recycle, reuse, and repair. And I can still enjoy my day and
see nice things going on at the same time. So what if I am
suggesting that we do this and I can only ask that...lesson
one...just be happy, and when crap happens,the bad feelings
come to the top and push hard at the nice one. The result is
that if you set out to keep your focus on being truthful and
honorable and happy, with the balance of energy I end up at
the end on the year with far more of the ones I really enjoy
the experience of, than the other ones.
Please help me to
correct the easy mistakes and the ones that I don't see,
unrelated anecdotes etc. This is my life and experiences, so
everything fits in my world. Be a genuinely happy person,
even if its not true at first, you commit, have faith and
persevere the world will win.